Saturday, November 8, 2014

Changing the Fertility Conversation: Egg Freezing

Last week, published an article, "Apple and Facebook will now pay for women to freeze their eggs." Although I am thrilled to see the dialogue around fertility becoming more public, the article is also very representative of the underlying message surrounding fertility these days: Women should be worried, very worried, about their fertility. As an author, women's health and wellness expert and a practitioner who has worked with thousands of women who are trying to conceive, it is with strong urging that I say: We need to shift the conversation about fertility that we are currently having.
Of course, being conscious of our fertility is a good thing, especially for women who want children one day. But being conscious is quite different than being panicked. The current conversation around fertility is telling women they should fear their declining fertility. Yes, the truth is women are now having children later in life and freezing eggs is an option for women to buy themselves some time. However, for the general population I think the focus should be more on preserving and optimizing our health and our fertility, not on the message, "spend $12,000, take potentially harmful medications, put your body through surgery (albeit a minor surgery) and freeze your eggs because your fertility is in danger." Yes, freezing eggs can be a life-changing move especially for women who have to undergo medical treatments like chemotherapy or radiation but, to make a blanket statement that encourages young women to freeze their eggs (which by the way, frozen eggs are rarely put to use, they are more seen as an insurance policy) is like saying to women: You should be scared, your time is running out, and by the time you are ready to have kids you'll be too old. Furthermore, when two of our nation's largest corporations are now offering coverage for the costly egg-freezing process it sets a precedent, putting pressure on all the women who don't work for these corporations and can't afford to drop $12,000 on freezing their eggs for that "just in case" moment.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Get Healthier & Leaner NOW with these tips for Spring!

Happy Spring.  Yes, I am aware that we are almost a month into this new season, however it's never too late to share with you some great tips on getting healthier and leaner NOW.

Since its Spring and according to Traditional Oriental Medicine- the time of self-renewal- I wanted to remind you offer you some lifestyle tweaks so that you can renew and revitalize your health,  lean down your bod (summer is around the corner!) and let go of any of that emotional crap that is still weighing you down.  It's time to hit the restart button, you definitely deserve it!

Take a few minutes and watch my latest video on my top 3 tips for Spring!  Read the rest of this blog for even more tips!

  • Get your butt outside, each and every day, for at least 30 minutes.  Breathe in that fresh, clean invigorating air and let your body fill up with the energy of this season.  
  • Chill Out & Let Go.  If this is the season to begin anew, then you need to really let go of any of that emotional baggage you've been carrying around.  Let go and set yourself free.  How? Well, one helpful tool is to write a letter to your 'baggage' stating all the reasons you should let go, being sure to clarify in the letter how damn good you will feel once you let this baggage go.  Another great way is to meditate daily, with your mantra being: I am letting go. I deserve to be free of X.
  • Eat Lightly.  Not just because beach weather is creeping in but because it is Spring! Spring is a light and airy season and its time to leave behind the heavier foods of winter, especially dairy products, sugar, processed foods (always to be avoided!), soy and wheat, can help you move into spring feeling lighter and lean you up for the coming summer months!  Personally, this is when I really cut down my dairy and wheat intake.  
  • Detox.  Not just in mind, but in body.  Spring is a great time to cleanse your liver.  Consider cutting down on your liver’s workload by eliminating alcohol, refined sugar, and anything artificial like fake sugar, alcohol, pesticides and herbicides. Even if you don’t want to do this forever, consider giving your liver a week or two off from known toxins — a spring vacation from toxins. Your health and your figure will greatly benefit!
  • Eat green foods.  In accordance with the season of Spring, as green shoots are sprouting from the ground, so should we be consuming green foods that are rich in chlorophyll like wheat grass or barley grass juice, spirulina, blue-green algea, and chlorella, parsley, kale, swiss chard, broccoli rabe, bean sprouts, dandelion and collard greens in order to accelerate liver rejuvenation. Personally, I love taking a daily dose of spirulina to help assist my liver in detoxing this time of year.
  • If you suffer from seasonal allergies add 1-2 diced cloves of garlic to a cup of dandelion or peppermint tea and be sure to avoid dairy, wheat and added sugar in your diet.  And, check out my blog on fighting seasonal allergies.  Don't forget to use your neti pot daily!
  • Drink hot water with lemon first thing in the morning. A little bit of the sour taste helps to gently help the liver slough off toxins. Or try 1 teaspoon each of apple cider vinegar and raw honey in one cup of water. However, too much sour will not be good for the liver, so think moderation so do one of these only once per day.
  • Really lean down for summer and take my Spring clean challenge and cut out wheat, dairy, alcohol and sugar for two weeks. It's amazing for your health and your body! Email me for my Spring clean challenge 5 day sample menu.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

How To Love Yourself MORE!

Lucille Ball once said,
"Love yourself first and everything falls into line."
And, I couldn't agree more.

So, with that in mind, here are my top 5 tips for falling more in love with the wonderful person you are:

1. List the ways you love thyself.  Grab a pen and a piece of paper--or sit down and write an email or text message to yourself--and list a few things you love (or even like) about yourself.  Ideally you can come up with ten things, but three is great too.  Here are some pointers:

      --I love the way I have compassion for people
      --I love the way I manage "x" at work
      --I love the way I take care of "x" in our family
      --I love the way I laugh
      --I love the kind of friend I am

OK... make your list and save it!  And, as often as you can, take it out and read it.  If you're feeling extra loving--add some more things to the loving thyself list!

2.  Surround yourself with positive people.  Sometimes this can be a challenge, especially if there are co-workers or family members who are negative.  But, try!  People who are friends with happy people are healthier and happier and definitely love themselves more.  So, choose wisely when spending your time with people.  If some of your friends or loved ones are the glass half-empty types, then avoid them.  Yes, you heard me--avoid them. I'm not saying to just drop those people (as if they're family or close friends--that's not the right thing to do) but I am saying to make a deliberate choice to spend less time with them.  When you do spend time with more negative people, make it your job to prepare for it: spend a few minutes before you see them and think of all the things you like about the person--think of all their great qualities and focus on sending them love.  Spending more time with happy, positive people will make a significant difference in your life.  And, it will amp up your love for you.  Remember: you are the most important person in your life, so look out for number one.

3.  Say, "I love you" to yourself.  Yes, every single day, catch yourself in the mirror and look into your own eyes and say, "I love you".  That's it, keep it simple and keep saying it until you start to believe yourself.  Even if you don't completely believe yourself, just the act of saying it makes you feel warm and nourished.

4. Believe.  Believe in something-- have faith in life being as amazing as you long for it to be.  Believe that all you desire can be yours.  If that feels like a leap for you--then spend some time pretending to believe... kind of like I said in my first book, Chill Out and Get Healthy: fake it 'til you make it.  I always encourage patients, friends, loved ones and even myself to spend some time each day daydreaming or imagining your life as you want it... abundant and fun and easy and happy.  Spend enough time imagining your life how you want it and you will start to believe it can happen.  Find a time each day where you can steal a few minutes and just daydream... and believe that all you desire can be yours!

5. Tell yourself a better story.  This is a great way to forgive the past and to find more ways to love yourself.  Is there something you tell yourself or a story you tell on a regular basis--it could be told out loud or in your head-- that is negative or self-depricating?  Is there something you believe about yourself that maybe isn't true?  My life coach would have me take a stressful statement, like: "I'm not good at "x"" and she would have me ask myself, "is that true?" Hmmm... kind of makes you think.  Is it true?  Well, Im sure there are ways you can show that it is true.  But, there are also ways you can show that its not true.  Aha!  And thats where your focus needs to go.  Tell yourself a different story...something like, "you know for years I always thought I wasnt good enough or I wasnt "x" and then I really looked at my life and I realized that when I do "a", "b" and "c" I am showing that I am good enough or that I can do "x".  Does that make sense?  So the key here is to tune into that internal (and external) dialogue and change the story.  Often my patients who are struggling with getting pregnant will say, "if i get pregnant..." and I make them repeat the sentence to "when I get pregnant..."  Just shift the words and tell yourself a better story and love yourself more!

I hope these tips are helpful!

You are amazing!

Sunday, January 12, 2014

4 Tips to make 2014 Magnificent

Happy New Year! I know we are just about two weeks into 2014…but I figure it's never too late to remind you of ways to make this year a magnificently magical one!

On New Years eve, I was in London on holiday and I made this quick video for you with my 4 tips for 2014.  To sum them up:

1. Be still. Take time each and every day to chill out and check in.  As one of my favorite teachers says, "In stillness I find my true self." Be still and find your true self!
2. Be happy.  Know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Trust the process, enjoy the process and be happy!
3. Be kind. Be kind, like really kind, to YOU. You deserve it!
4. Believe. Believe in  yourself. Believe that you can have all that you want. Believe in miracles, they happen all the time!

Better things are on their way to you! Believe it!

Happy New Year! May your 2014 be filled with magic and love and tremendous joy!

Thursday, November 7, 2013

My Organic Beauty Regimen

I am so grateful that I often get asked, "what do you do to make your skin look so good?" If you have been reading my teachings for some time now, you know that I always tout that our skin is an external manifestation of our internal health.  CHeck out my latest video where I talk about both my internal and external beauty regimen.  Let me know your thoughts!

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

The Importance Of Downtime

Hey there! Hope you all had a wonderful 4th of July!  I know I haven’t blogged in quite some time… my apologies.  Between all the things going on in my business and my personal life, blogging, even though its important to me-- falls to the wayside. 

About two weeks ago I was contemplating why this is.

I like blogging, I love writing, I love communicating with you all, I love sharing content and thoughts.  Basically: I really enjoy blogging.  So why was I having such resistance to sitting and writing my monthly posts (I haven’t blogged since March!).  After some meditation and introspection—it hit me.  I was a bit burnt out.  I needed some downtime.  Some CTFO time.  I needed to step back from the hecticness of my life and be still for a bit.  I needed to detach and unwind and chill out!

For those of you who are in my practice, you know that this summer I am living basically full time in the Hamptons.  I have a small practice out there, which I love and I stepped back a bit from my other two practices—because I really needed some downtime.  So on June 15th, I moved out east and I’ve been settling in.  Loving the fresh air and my runs down country roads.  I am loving the ocean and the greenery.  I am loving the farm fresh fruits and veggies... and the eggs! I am unwinding.  I am writing and blogging again.  And it feels good. 

However, I do realize that its not always that easy—usually we can’t just pack up and move to the beach for a few months.  And, man do I feel grateful that I was able to.  But, of course all this downtime has me thinking—how can we incorporate this downtime into our daily lives? Of course, I talk about this topic a lot (in fact my last blog post was about “slowing down”) but I’m still searching for what can really work in our day to day lives.  So, here’s my top three recommendations for finding downtime amidst our daily lives:

1.  CTFO—of course we need our daily dose.  We really need to sit in silence for at least a few minutes EACH AND EVERY DAY.  The clarity that this quiet time brings us is not only good for your mental state, but meditating has been shown to make us healthier too!  So just do it!

2.  Find Joy Daily.  EACH AND EVERY DAY it is so important that you feel a sense of joy.  Even if its only for a few minutes—it will fill you up in so many ways.   So, ask yourself: whats one things I really enjoy that I can do every day?  Is it exercise, it is choosing healthier foods, is it calling a friend, is it singing your favorite song outloud while youre driving? Is it cooking a healthy meal?  It can be super simple, but finding joy each and every day will keep you feeling light and free and happy!

3.  Set Your Intentions.  I know this is kind of a cliché statement, but have you ever pondered what this really means?  To me it means—be in tune with your true self and live your life from that place.  Of course there are daily tasks that we don’t love doing—that we have to do.  Im not talking about that.  Im talking about making deliberate choices in life—with the intent to feel good and to act from a place of feeling good.   For me, each morning (after I hit snooze) I lie in bed and “set my intentions” for the day.  I run through in my head the things I have to do that day and I see them going seamlessly. I see myself feeling happy. I see myself being appreciative.  I see myself being true to Aimee.  By doing this work (its literally a few minutes) its sets the stage for my day and allows me to feel calm and at peace and eager to start my day. 

I hope you find this tips helpful and that you try and incorporate them into your daily life.  I actually would like to challenge you to practice these three things daily for 2 weeks and see how damn good and refreshed you feel!  Please tell me about your experience on my facebook page!

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Slow Down, You Move Too Fast

Slow Down, You Move Too Fast

Does this sound familiar? Lately when I feel like I darting around my life too fast to keep my feet on the ground, I hear Paul Simon singing (well, honestly, I hear my father singing this Paul Simon song) in my head:

Slow down, you move too fast, you’ve got to make the moment last...feeling groovy.

You may know the song, you may not.  It doesn’t really matter.  What matters are the words.  And, whether or not you listen to them when you hear them.  I try to listen.

And, after my second cold in the past 3 months hit me last week (and knocked me on my butt)—I am really listening.  Sure, it’s true…there’s a lot going on in my life.  As, I am sure there is a lot going on in yours.  But this cold really made me stop and think: why am I moving so fast?

If you’re a patient or friend or family member of mine, you see it firsthand: I move really fast, but I sincerely try to practice what I preach.  I really do.  So, then why did my immune system get the best of me? Not sure… I eat right, I take my supplements, I exercise, I sleep 7-8 hours every night, I take down time, I express my emotions, I have fun, I focus on the good, I live in moderation.  Yet, I still wound up with a raging fever and a subsequent ear infection that left me on the couch for 6 days!

What gives?

In my professional medical opinion, I think there are two reasons:

1.     I’m taking on more than I’m allowing myself to receive.  I suppose this comes with my nature—I’m a nurturer and a care taker and I love those qualities about myself.  But, what I’ve recently realized is that the nurturer in me needs to be nurtured too.  She deserves it.  She gives out a lot and that should be met with receiving as well.  Thankfully there’s no shortage of love in my life… I just need to allow myself to slow down enough to receive it. And, sometimes I’m even allowed to ask for some nurturing.
2.     I need to be more diligent about taking the time to meditate.  I’m usually pretty good about meditating, but lately I’ve gotten more into listening to self-help-y style lectures and books on my iphone and I’ve let meditation—the quiet—go to the wayside.  I really enjoy the works I’m listening to, and they are offering me such profound evolution but I am missing some quiet time.  I am missing the sitting and being still time.  I am moving too fast.                                                                                                    

As I sit here typing, I feel quiet. I feel still. I feel peace.  I am breathing deep and it feels good.  I am making a promise to myself, as I publicly state it to you… I am slowing down so that I can consciously receive all the love in my life and sit quietly (for at least ten minutes a day!) and bask in awesome-ness of this life of mine. You see, you can do all the right things and still be negatively affecting your health.  For me, this last cold was a great awakening and I’m grateful for it.

Life I love you, all is groovy.